Fri, Sep 25|
Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) - How to Get Started (2 of 3)
This second of 3 workshops is designed to give you the tools to move forward in your exploration of ENM. The workshops don’t need to be taken sequentially, although they do build on one another.
Time & Location
Sep 25, 2020, 6:30 PM – 9:00 PM PDT
About the Event
This is an event done in collaboration with Empowered Pleasure and other chapters of SPW. There will be attendees that are not members of an SP chapter. Please note this event is at 6:30pm PST, 7:30pm MDT, 8:30pm CDT, and 3:30am GMT+2 and lasts for 2.5 hours.
This second of 3 workshops is designed to give you the tools to move forward in your exploration of ENM. The workshops don’t need to be taken sequentially, although they do build on one another. We’ll cover: • How do I use Gottman techniques to create emotional honesty in my relationships? • How do I find partners? • What if my partner prefers someone of my gender? Of their own gender? Of any gender? • What is “Unicorn hunting”, and why is it generally not ethical? • How do I move from an initial “opening up” conversation to actually engaging in dating and/or sex with others? • What is NRE and how does it affect ENM relationships? • How do I handle one partner having much greater success in finding other lovers? • What do I do when my partner is out on a date and I’m not? • How do I deal with jealousy? • Should I connect with other metamours? And how? • What are agreements, boundaries, and rules? • How can we ethically create them for ENM relationships? • How much detail should we share about our dates with others? • How can I create sustainable ENM relationships? • What constitutes cheating in ENM relationships? There will be multiple Breakouts to discuss the points above in smaller groups. All discussion is entirely consensual, and everyone will be reminded of the importance that anything shared here is confidential. --------------------------------
Cliff, Charity & Mel (CCM) - separately and as partners - have over 50 years in ENM relationships, giving them a comprehensive view of both the wonders and perils of living this life.
Cliff, MSC. His first profession was 20 years of teaching meditation to thousands of people all over the world (Iran, India, Philippines, Switzerland, US). He's studied Tantra since 1998 with Alan Lowen, is a graduate of Alan's 2-year Body, Heart & Soul Training (http://artofbeing.com/), and has assisted Alan at dozens of week-long Tantra courses in Germany and Switzerland. Over the past 47 years, he's facilitated hundreds of workshops with tens of thousands in attendance on meditation, intimacy, sexuality, boundaries and presence.
Charity, PsyD. She specializes in trauma and interpersonal neurobiology. She applies what we know about the brain and mirror neurons to understand how attachment and connection interweave, and how genuine relating in the absence of defense mechanisms enhances capacity for self-knowledge. She is currently working on applying John Gottman’s work on relationships to different styles of ethical non-monogamy (ENM). Mel, MA. She is a theatre artist, musician, writer, storyteller, teacher, and marketing professional. Her one-woman show - Sexology: The Musical! - explores her journey from monogamy to solo polyamory, covering the entire range of sexuality and relationships. The show has toured across the country and been awarded multiple Best-in-Show awards. Their goal is to create a safe and nurturing space where you can explore your edges and learn more about your deepest self, desires, and relationships while unwinding the blocks that get in your way. All activities are entirely consensual.
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